It’s a date! But should it be?

I’m not bragging, but you can ask around, I’m one hell of a wedding date. Catch me line dancing with the bride, look for me slow dancing with the groom’s dad, heck, I’ll even take a nip from Aunt Barb’s mystery flask if she offers.

I used to believe that if I was given a +1 to a wedding, that meant I *had* to bring someone. After being in several weddings, helping with planning, and seeing the price tag on them, I no longer believe that. I’ll bring someone if I think I’m not going to know a ton of people, but other than that, I’ll fly solo.

If you are bringing a date (that isn’t your S.O.), choose wisely. Does your friend Stan get too hammered and start fights? Maybe don’t bring him. Is Bethany painfully shy and socially awkward? She’s not the one. Bring your extroverted friend who loves to dance and everyone likes. If you don’t know anyone like that, get better friends.

As a bridesmaid, though, I never bring a date for a few reasons. If your date comes to the ceremony, they will have to find something to do while you’re off taking pictures before the reception. If they don’t know anyone at the wedding, this could make cocktail hour awkward for them. Chances are you will be at a head table, so you won’t get to sit with them for dinner, leaving them to eat at a table of strangers. You’ll probably have to go to the bathroom every time the bride does to assist her, so that will be annoying for them too. And most importantly, dudes love trying to get with the bridesmaids, so you want to be available (I kid, I kid. Or do I?).

In conclusion, when choosing a date, it’s best to ask yourself “would the bride or groom like this person?”. If the answer is no, leave them home. I’ve also experienced being asked to bring a specific date to a wedding because they didn’t make the guest list, but the couple still wants them there. And, it being all about the bride (had to, couldn’t go a whole post without mentioning it), I’m happy to help.